Friendship in Your Early Twenties
Life in your early twenties can be exhilarating, challenging, unexpected and even lonely as you flip a new page towards self-discovery and a new form of independence. Among all of the changes during this time, the one common factor that remains consistent is the significance of friendships.
Friendships, much like life, are dynamic and forever changing. As you step into your twenties, you'll find that your circle of friends might evolve. Some bonds will grow stronger, while others may naturally fade. I have learned to embrace this evolution without guilt or regret. The friends you make now could be with you for a lifetime, or they could be valuable lessons for growth. I find it important to stay open to new connections and let go of those that no longer align with you.
Overtime I have put a lot of value on quality over quantity. In my teenage years, I always longed for a wide circle of friends. However, as I matured, I came to appreciate the value of a few genuine relationships. Surrounding yourself with people who uplift, support, and inspire you contribute to your personal development and wellbeing. Don't hesitate to invest time and energy in relationships that truly matter. One true friend is more significant than many “party” friends. Which leads me to the next thought of social media and friendship.
In the first few months of living in a new town without any of the friends I have ever known I spent countless hours longing for the relationships I was watching on snapchat and instagram. Growing jealous of people that seemed to be doing their early twenties better than me: enjoying city life, girls nights, ice cream dates, sleepovers, etc. Those thoughts are normal but they also are not always true. Comparison is the thief of joy and understanding that each person's path is made perfectly for them helped to change my perspective.
In my experience, one of the hardest parts of a friendship is effective communication. However, that is what healthy friendships are built on. In your twenties, you're learning how to express yourself authentically while respecting others' viewpoints. Personally, I needed to practice active listening, understanding their emotions are often (or always) different than mine and the art of compromise. If something bothers you or if you sense a rift in a friendship, address it with empathy and openness. Remembering that you are having a hard conversation due to the love you have for your friend. Transparent communication helps prevent misunderstandings, hurt feelings and it nurtures a strong, long lasting bond.
Your twenties are a time to curate a circle that uplifts you as you stride confidently toward a brighter future. Your tribe, whether they are near or far, is your biggest support system. Hold the relationships you cherish closely and nourish them. It is worth it. Thank you so much for reading. Love always, Laura
